If you broke up with someone you love before, I bet there is a sad moment you should get along with and I know it doesn’t easy at all. Maybe some of you will cry and cry again. Well, nothing is wrong with that, but should you spend all of your days to think about him in that miserable way? No right? OK, I have simple tips to move on after you had been broken hearted.
1. stop listening to a sad song
Broken heart of course will make your soul increasingly fragile, and it will get worst if you choose to hear mellow songs. You better listen to songs with full of spirit such as “learn to fly” (Foo Fighter) or some song by Panic! At the Disco, sounds pretty good… I bet it will burn your spirit.
2. Throw all the stuffs away
It is a good idea to throw away all the things which may drive you to remember anything about him. Maybe you can put it away with tears (not because of him but because it’s expensive ), but at least it will help you to stay away from the memory of him.
3. Share it to someone you trust
You can share all your sorrow to someone you trust, it could be your good friend or your family like your mum maybe. I believe they will have a wise opinion about your problem, and hopefully you can feel so much better because at least you are not keeping it in your heart.
4. Don’t ever call him (not even once!)
I know you miss him right? but please hang it up, it is easier for you to get through it by not calling him again. If you still keep his number on your phone book, I think you should change his name with “warning” or “be careful” or even further, delete it!
5. Retouching
Broke up with your man can be a good moment for you to retouch some parts of your look. I’m not talking about surgery or liposuction, but you can start it with your hairstyle. You can also change the way you dress up, and be more confident with that. You have to show to the world and to yourself that you are a strong woman even without him.
6. Shopping, shopping and shopping
Many said that one way to forget about your sorrow is shopping. Well, I know this is a risky activity for your monthly budget, but if you can feel better with shopping, why not? It won’t hurt your heart, but it will sometimes hurt your wallet
7. Starting for an open relationship
Becoming a single person means you now having more time to spend with your friends, including your male-friends. Start to find their number or address - hunting season has just began and it could be an opportunity to get another better relationship.
OK, what do you think? Well, surely its not going to be that easy but in the end, time is a powerful healer, you will get through it
the wounded heart photo by B S K
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emoel
on October 11 2007
wow…you’re so amazing, he is so lucky to have u
thanx 4 ur advice…
GBU
Relationship advice that makes a difference
on August 13 2008
Lots of information to digest. I\’ll need some time to think about this.
crazy
on September 10 2008
hi friends….
i want to forget one of my best friend….but luv him so much…tell me what to do…even i always try to ignore him…but in a way when i face him then my all efforts go in waste…
help me…i luv him,,,but wanna forget him…
fastoffice
on November 20 2008
Coming from a guys perspective, I kinda have to laugh at some of these. A lot of these suggestions are actually psychological barriers to deflect dealing with all the emotions that come from a breakup. That is unhealthy and actually leads to bringing all that unresolved anger and pain into your next relationship.
Its poison in your veins ladies.
One of the best pieces of advice I as a man can give for post breakup stress is this - FORGET your girlfriends, forget shopping, forget cutting your hair and these superficial efforts - when you have a breakup, go talk to your Dad. I know this sounds insane, “Go talk to my Dad? What are you nuts”? - but trust me, by doing this you will save the poor guy you date next from having to deal with all of the unresolved pain and anguish from your previous relationships.
I guarantee your Dad will give you the best advice and the most comforting words you will ever receive. He will give you a man’s perspective that is peppered with the wisdom of age and experience. And he won’t tell you to go shopping or cut your hair.
Try it.
All the suggestions in this article only “mask” your emotions. You have to understand, learn and flush them out so the next guy doesn’t have to live with the “ghost of relationships past”. Its poison in your veins ladies. This is what we call “emotional baggage”. Going into your next relationship you only want to bring, at most, enough emotional baggage that could fit in a clutch, NOT 3 suitcases full.
Kevin
http://www.fastoffice.com
eureka may asaula
on January 15 2009
elow.. know wat??? i dont know how to forget him. i really really love him but he has no tym 4 me at all….
SagiiLuv
on October 16 2009
It’s hard not to call him…..Try *67 and his # so you can call unknown and at least hear his voice lol =)
Raina
on November 1 2009
i think , ur 7 advice r pretty good to follow. i used to do it with my ex n it works . thanks
i think i can find a better one than him. LOVE IS JUST CHOICE